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Struggling with Meaning

Talking therapies have concentrated on meaning since the earliest forms of counselling. Everyone has questions about what gives them a sense of meaning?  What is meaningful to each of us?  Similarly, what is it that can be experienced as meaningless?

This can be a complicated process and one that deserves proper consideration as we prize each person as a whole not simply delivering therapy as a way to eradicate difficulties like a cut off.  A whole person has many aspects that we call their identity even though it may appear that we could or should shed that which strikes us as meaningless.

How do we make meaning in the face of much adversity?  One of the ways we do this in talking therapy is to recognise that some of the activities and endeavours that we are engaged in appear in detail as meaningless but it can still be very meaningful that we engage in them.  In this way, meaning is linked to purpose as it much of what we do or engage in doesn’t seem to have meaning but there may be a purpose to it.  We can all think of how this might relate to our physical activities, our social engagements and our work demands.

Meaning and identity

What we consider as having meaning for us like our family or our work or our health are central to our sense of identity.

Our identity is made up of our beliefs and our values which all contribute to how we see ourselves in the world and how we are related to and impacted by the world.

This is important because our sense of identity involves not only that which we find meaningful but also that which we find meaningless. 

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Meaning and purpose are resilience

A central part of feeling and thinking that life has hope and that we can get through difficult times is to establish a position that what we do, how we do it and who we do it with are important and meaningful.

To work through difficulties and to have a sense of purpose both gives a sense that what we are doing is meaningful and valuable to us and those we are with and reinforces a sense of purpose in life and helps us to stay resilient or to be resilient enough to face our concerns

Thinking about meaning wholesomely

Talking therapy encourages us to look closely at what we believe is meaningful as well as meaningless, rather than simply focus upon one aspect of ourselves that we consider as having meaning.

For example, we might think the work we do is meaningless but we might think that being with other people is meaningful.  So before we simply discard our work, we need to think how this might impact us and being with others.

If we disregard or try to get rid of that which we find meaningless, we risk overlooking a part of our identity that is tied up with some of our values or beliefs. 

How we help

Talking therapy allows us space to consider many aspects of what would give us a sense of having meaning and making meaning and having meaningful experiences as well as making sense of our difficulties and concerns.  So in and of itself, the dialogue in therapy is considered as meaningful and central to the work of talking therapy.

Making meaning is a topic that is exceptionally relevant at this time particularly over the past few years.  Meaning making was a dominant theme in talking therapies during the second world war which was a time of tragedy and catastrophe different from but not entirely alien from some aspects of the isolations, deprivations and losses that appeared and occurred for many people in recent times.

How do we make meaning in the face of much adversity?  One of the ways we do this in talking therapy is to recognise that some of the activities and endeavours that we are engaged in appear in detail as meaningless but it can still be very meaningful that we engage in them.  In this way, meaning is linked to purpose as it much of what we do or engage in doesn’t seem to have meaning but there may be a purpose to it.  We can all think of how this might relate to our physical activities, our social engagements and our work demands.

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